Saturday, August 06, 2005

What Women Want

I have been married now for about 31/2 years, and I love my husband dearly, but. He is the most unromantic man in the world! I'm sorry honey but you are. So, for the 3 people who read my blog (I know you are all men) here's what women want. Or in other words here's what I want.
I want *someone (*read Jason) to express some appreciation for what I do and not just notice when I haven't done it. i.e. Doing the dishes, cleaning the kitchen/living room/bathroom/babies room, cooking dinner. I will be the first to admit that I don't do much laundry or dishes because I hate doing those things and I have been blessed with a husband who does pick up the slack in those areas and for that I am truly grateful.
I want *someone to recognize and be proud of my talents and achievements. (though they may be few and far between) A couple of examples: about a year and a half ago I got sick of looking at the little puppies that adorn the trunks we use as night stands. Since I knew we could not afford new night stands I scrounged up a little bit of money, went to Wal-Mart and bought a couple of yards of dollar fabric. I brought it home and with no pattern and just by measuring the trunks I made covers for them that fit almost perfectly. When *someone came home I was really excited to show him what I had done. I showed him, and did what most women do I pointed out that they didn't fit exactly right thinking he would say "oh no they look great, that's so great that you could do that!" or something along those lines. But no, he gave me the most crushing line he could have. He said with a completely blank expression "oh well I can just get myself a night stand at D.I." Even just writing that makes me remember how sad I was and still am every time I see those stupid trunks. The other example has to do with the math class I am taking. Math is REALLY hard for me and so I have been working extra hard to at least pass this class. I think about it all the time, I go over procedures and orders and rules in my head every night before I fall asleep, I spend hours on homework almost every night. I was having *someone check my homework when I was done but he always made it seem like it was such an imposition and after he checked it instead of saying encouraging things like "Wow you got 22 problems right and only 3 need to be looked at again" He would just tell me everything I did wrong. That hurt every time he did it. I stopped asking him for help when he told me that he didn't want to do my homework for me and if I didn't understand it I needed to go to the math lab. I want *someone to see how hard I try even if I don't succeed.
I want *someone to stop thinking that just because he's already got me for eternity he doesn't have to try anymore. You don't work really hard to impress girls you date and do everything they like to do and try and spend as much time as you can with them only to treat your wife like you don't care what she thinks of you. It doesn't make sense to me to go out of your way to be your best self for virtual strangers and not even try for your eternal companion and the mother of your children. Actually maybe it does make a little sense, your eternal companion will always love you. Where as virtual strangers may not like you at all if you showed that side.
A few other things that I want: A good kiss at least once a day(morning breath or not, you used to not care before we got married), At least ten minutes of serious conversation a day (without sarcastic comments or quotes from the Simpsons), I'd like to be asked how I'm feeling once in a while (whether physical or emotional), I'd like to be asked my opinion on things as if my opinion mattered (as if I hadn't already given it forcefully).
I suppose this could go on for quite some time so I'll just stop now. I'm sorry for those of you who are not *someone (I guess everyone is someone) but I think if you ask any woman what she wants her list wouldn't differ much from mine.

http://www.ldslivingonline.com/story1.php?aid=507

P.S. Jason this link is for you.

1 comment:

Carter said...

about a year and a half ago I got sick of looking at the little puppies that adorn the trunks we use as night stands. Since I knew we could not afford new night stands I scrounged up a little bit of money, went to Wal-Mart and bought a couple of yards of dollar fabric.

You have soooo turned into your mother.